A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

Marciliediscipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Sibling Fighting, Uncategorized2 Comments

This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

5 Ways to Move From Disciplinarian to Coach

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One of my greatest fears upon marrying a “nice guy” was that I would become the “disciplinarian” and he’d become, or rather remain, the “nice guy.” Dang.  It happened! Ironically, the thing that pushed me even farther in to the “disciplinarian” role was  . . . can you guess it? Yup, my old friend, Fear. . . Fear that my kids … Read More

Great parenting doesn’t just happen “in the moment”

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This chart got a lot of great feedback on my Facebook page so I’m sharing it with my community. Parents in my classes are generally very focused on what to do “in the moment” of misbehavior. But I’ve found that there is way more impact when we focus before the moment, to prevent the “moments” from ever happening. I call this “Preventive … Read More

The surprising parenting lesson from my morning from hell

MarcilieLetting Go, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Sibling Fighting, Uncategorized6 Comments

Whoa, this particular morning was a doozey. It took me a while to recover enough to write about it. Still not sure . . . but here goes. Part 1:  Siblings Fight Over Piano Books Thursdays are piano days for two of my kids. Their babysitter picks them up from school and goes straight to piano lessons, so they need … Read More

Struggling to come up with “the right” consequences? Try this!

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Click here for an audio version of this blog: Over the past several months, I have heard some questionable tips from parenting experts on the topic of “consequences.”  What’s surprising to me is that these are parenting experts I respect and agree with most of the time.  But not this time. Here’s an example of one tip that raised my eyebrows:  “The … Read More

A GEM of a parenting tool

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This month, I’m bringing back a message I wrote before I had a blog.  It’s from September, 2013. . . Recently, one of my favorite quotes came across my desk and inspired my message today. Here it is: “Be where you are, otherwise you will miss your life.”  — Buddha (paraphrased by Jack Kornfield) I love the meaning and have … Read More

The best gift you can give your child this holiday season

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The best gift you can give your children this holiday season is . . . Encouragement. You can’t wrap it up, and they won’t be asking for it.  But they need it more than anything, and it doesn’t cost a dime. “A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.”   – Rudolf Dreikurs Think of someone in your life who was encouraging.  What … Read More

In parenting, I do better when I feel better. How about you?

MarcilieParenting w/Positive Discipline, Work / Life Balance0 Comments

When my 3rd baby was born, something happened to my 2nd-born.  She transformed from a sweet, cheerful, optimistic and easy-going child into a needy, super-sensitive, irritating being.  She was bugging the crap out of me.  I didn’t like the way I was feeling, and I definitely did not like the parent I was being.  So I enrolled in my first parenting … Read More

Going back-to-school in chunks

MarcilieBack to School, Work / Life Balance4 Comments

About a week ago, I found myself feeling unsettled and anxious about the coming of a new school year.  My son will start high school this month which presents all sorts of new emotional and logistical issues, I lost my carpool partner for my two younger daughters, and I had a lot of questions about what the extracurricular schedule would look like. … Read More

3 Tips for a Smooth Transition Back to School

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As summer comes to a close, it’s time for another huge transition in our children’s lives:  a new school year. Some kids handle this transition with ease.  Others don’t!  And most all kids need some help with transitions:  from bed to school, from school to home, from play to work, from awake to sleep, etc. The transition from summer to school is a … Read More