Getting on the same parenting page with your partner

Joe Alamolong term parenting, Parenting and Management, Parenting w/Positive Discipline0 Comments

Do you and your partner have different parenting styles?  If so, you’re in good company. It comes up all the time and I mean all the time: “How do my partner and I get onto the same parenting page?” One parent is too kind and the other too firm, and they push each other, ever farther to extremes, by compensating … Read More

Two things that help kids WANT to cooperate

Marciliediscipline, long term parenting0 Comments

Your child’s behavior is not the problem. Really. If your child’s behavior is not the problem, then what is? Some parents reply, “I’m the problem!”  It’s true that you may be part of the problem but here’s the real answer . . . The problem is the problem. There’s always something deeper that causes the behavior to show up. Always. … Read More

My struggle to get my child to scoop the freaking litter box – part 2 in a 2-part series on agreements and follow-through

MarcilieChores, consequences, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline0 Comments

But we had an agreement! Part II: What to do when kids don’t follow through with agreements (over and over again.) I regularly turned my head when I passed it to avoid the irritation bubbling in my chest. It’s not that it was smelly or even that gross (although sometimes it was both.) It was simply a daily reminder of … Read More

Three Parenting Beliefs that Kill Your Child’s Creativity, Joy, and Potential (and How to Turn Them Around)

Marcilieconsequences, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline0 Comments

We all carry beliefs that shape our parenting behavior. Many of these beliefs were formed in early childhood and are deeply lodged into our brains. Some of these beliefs are helpful in our quest to raise kind, compassionate, resilient and responsible children. Some of these beliefs are not. These are killer beliefs because they kill creativity, potential, joy, and relationship. … Read More

Sugar Buzz or Sugar Bust — What To Do With Too Much Halloween Candy?

Marciliediscipline, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Uncategorized0 Comments

We face the same problem with Halloween candy every year.  I don’t know why it continues to surprise me . . . Last year I was mortified by the two pillowcases full of candy that my tween brought home on Halloween eve.  And this was after the sugar-filled school parties earlier that same day.   I immediately began to panic . . … Read More

3 Easy Ways to “Connect Before Correct” in parenting

Marciliediscipline, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Uncategorized0 Comments

Connection Before Correction is one of my all-time favorite Parenting with Positive Discipline mantras. I believe these are words to live by both in the moment of dissatisfying behavior, and in the long run as a foundation for any relationship. Several years ago I began to feel like a nag to my then 11 year-old son so I tracked the … Read More

When Kids Lie

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, long term parenting, Lying, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, punishment, Uncategorized6 Comments

The topic of lying came up in my parenting class last week. We were role-playing parents’ typical responses to a lying kid: “Honey, did you just lie about that? Are you sure?” (When parent already knows the child is lying) “Are you kidding me? You just lied straight to my face. How COULD you?” “That’s it, no more (fill in … Read More

The surprising parenting lesson from my morning from hell

MarcilieLetting Go, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Sibling Fighting, Uncategorized6 Comments

Whoa, this particular morning was a doozey. It took me a while to recover enough to write about it. Still not sure . . . but here goes. Part 1:  Siblings Fight Over Piano Books Thursdays are piano days for two of my kids. Their babysitter picks them up from school and goes straight to piano lessons, so they need … Read More