Four ways to say “no” without actually saying, “NO!”

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Four ways to say NO without saying NO! Re-directing away from the negative and toward the positive has always been a big part of Positive Discipline. An interesting article from Psychology Today provides yet more evidence as to why: Every time the brain hears or sees a negative word or image, dozens of stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters are released. “If you vocalize your … Read More

Your Child May Have The Best Solution For Unwanted Behavior

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This story about giving up some parenting responsibility comes from Louann, who recently took my 8-week Parenting with Positive Discipline virtual class . . . My then 3-year old son and I were at our favorite family camp one summer. My son loved to play in the woods – grabbing handfuls of red earth, and throwing them up in the … Read More

Set limits for your children (that stick!) in 3 simple steps

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I keep a notebook about each of my children in which I record major events, questions, and notes from parent-teacher conferences and other meetings. I happened to be thumbing through my daughter’s notebook while at a doctor visit last month, and a folded piece of paper fell out. On it, I’d  described a challenging parenting situation that I wanted help … Read More

3 Cures for Overwhelm in December and Beyond

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It’s that time of year! So let me get right to the point to minimize the odds of making it worse . . . 3 cures for overwhelm, and not just for now, but throughout the year. Challenge: pick one idea from this list to try out for the rest of the month. Unless that feels overwhelming. In which case, just … Read More

Sugar Buzz or Sugar Bust — What To Do With Too Much Halloween Candy?

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We face the same problem with Halloween candy every year.  I don’t know why it continues to surprise me . . . Last year I was mortified by the two pillowcases full of candy that my tween brought home on Halloween eve.  And this was after the sugar-filled school parties earlier that same day.   I immediately began to panic . . … Read More

3 Easy Ways to “Connect Before Correct” in parenting

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Connection Before Correction is one of my all-time favorite Parenting with Positive Discipline mantras. I believe these are words to live by both in the moment of dissatisfying behavior, and in the long run as a foundation for any relationship. Several years ago I began to feel like a nag to my then 11 year-old son so I tracked the … Read More

Sibling fight breaks out in the Happiest Place on Earth

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It’s supposed to be the “Happiest Place on Earth” but after long days, long lines, and large scoops of ice cream, it can get unhappy pretty fast. I’m talking about Disneyland, where all 5 members of my family shared one hotel room for four nights over Spring Break a few weeks ago. Three of us were sick with cough/colds. On night 3, … Read More

Mind the Gap: Why it’s so hard to keep resolutions and how to up your odds

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“I know I shouldn’t yell so much, but I just can’t seem to stop!” “I know I shouldn’t eat this entire pint of ice cream, but here I go anyway . . .” “I know I should stop reading Facebook, but the other things I have to do are far less interesting!” Does any of this sound familiar? Even when … Read More

When Kids Lie

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The topic of lying came up in my parenting class last week. We were role-playing parents’ typical responses to a lying kid: “Honey, did you just lie about that? Are you sure?” (When parent already knows the child is lying) “Are you kidding me? You just lied straight to my face. How COULD you?” “That’s it, no more (fill in … Read More