Flip-Flop Parenting And What To Do Instead

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Do you know what I mean when I say, “flip-flop parenting?” You know, when we start out as parents, we want to be nice. We want to keep peace in the family and have happy experiences so we do a lot for our kids, we give them some latitude, and put our own needs last until . . . we … Read More

A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

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This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

5 Ways to Move From Disciplinarian to Coach

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One of my greatest fears upon marrying a “nice guy” was that I would become the “disciplinarian” and he’d become, or rather remain, the “nice guy.” Dang.  It happened! Ironically, the thing that pushed me even farther in to the “disciplinarian” role was  . . . can you guess it? Yup, my old friend, Fear. . . Fear that my kids … Read More

Great parenting doesn’t just happen “in the moment”

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This chart got a lot of great feedback on my Facebook page so I’m sharing it with my community. Parents in my classes are generally very focused on what to do “in the moment” of misbehavior. But I’ve found that there is way more impact when we focus before the moment, to prevent the “moments” from ever happening. I call this “Preventive … Read More

The surprising parenting lesson from my morning from hell

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Whoa, this particular morning was a doozey. It took me a while to recover enough to write about it. Still not sure . . . but here goes. Part 1:  Siblings Fight Over Piano Books Thursdays are piano days for two of my kids. Their babysitter picks them up from school and goes straight to piano lessons, so they need … Read More

A GEM of a parenting tool

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This month, I’m bringing back a message I wrote before I had a blog.  It’s from September, 2013. . . Recently, one of my favorite quotes came across my desk and inspired my message today. Here it is: “Be where you are, otherwise you will miss your life.”  — Buddha (paraphrased by Jack Kornfield) I love the meaning and have … Read More

The best gift you can give your child this holiday season

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The best gift you can give your children this holiday season is . . . Encouragement. You can’t wrap it up, and they won’t be asking for it.  But they need it more than anything, and it doesn’t cost a dime. “A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.”   – Rudolf Dreikurs Think of someone in your life who was encouraging.  What … Read More

My kid uses my own parenting tool on me . . . and it works!

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“I need a hug” is an actual parenting tool from “Positive Discipline.”  You can use this tool almost any time, in any situation, and it often works wonders.   Imagine that your child is having a tantrum.  You say, “I need a hug!”   Your child can’t hear you at first because he is tantrumming (or arguing, or negotiating, or … Read More

The power of perspective when parenting

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“Your explanation of your child’s behavior guides your intervention.”  — Ross Greene   I will forever be transformed by having read, “The Explosive Child” by Ross Greene.  Poorly named, this book describes both a perspective and a process for solving behavior problems jointly with kids (all kinds, even non-explosive ones.)  His work, along with “Positive Discipline,” inspired the curriculum for … Read More