Parenting with Positive Discipline Classes

Parenting with Positive Discipline (PD) classes are for all parents who want to invest in a strong, connected, and mutually respectful relationship with their kids for the long term. Who doesn’t want that?!
 
Grounded in the belief that people learn best when the learning is drawn forth rather than stuffed in, PD classes are always experiential and interactive. Expect to feel supported, and empowered, and also to have some fun!
 

Live, Interactive On-Line Parenting with Positive Discipline Class

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“I really love all the positive reinforcement for positive parenting received from Marcilie! My family and home are happier places as a result!” — Lana Tillis, Mother of 2 Children

Would you like to:
  • yell less
  • have fewer power struggles
  • connect more
  • share the load more
  • feel more confident and peaceful in your parenting
  • and raise children who are respectful, resilient, and plain old happy?
Then you’ll definitely want to join us for this fun, informative workshop series!

This Virtual Parenting with Positive Discipline on-line workshop series will help you show up as the parent you want to be, and create a home where respectful cooperation is the norm. You’ll get tangible, practical tips and tools that are easy to implement and work right away.

Here’s just some of what you’ll learn over the 8-week class:
  • My favorite 3-step ritual to stay cool, calm, and curious in the face of really irritating behavior.
  • 2 things every child needs for intrinsically motivated cooperation.
  • Simple, tangible, and effective Positive Discipline tools to reduce defiance, tantrums, back talk and other challenging behaviors.
  • How to leverage your family team (including your partner) in household responsibilities.
  • The one principle that matters most in helping your kids to become responsible, respectful, resourceful, and happy adults (and how to put that principle into practice every day.)

When: 8 Wednesdays from 11 a.m.-12:15 p.m. Pacific Time starting Sept. 27, 2017 and ending Nov. 15.  BONUS Q&A and Coaching from 12:15 – 12:30 p.m. weekly.  Convert to your time zone here.  All classes will be recorded for replay.

Where: In the comfort of your own home or office via web video or audio conference. I’ll facilitate each workshop live, via web video conference, and you’ll be able to participate and ask your questions as if we were in a room together.

How: We will use Zoom video conferencing. If your computer or mobile device is less than 15 years old, you’ll be able to participate! (Except Chromebooks, I’m sorry!) You’ll be given a URL to tune in via web conference OR a phone number if you prefer audio only.

Cost: $309/person and $179/2nd caregiver.

Register by August 27 for Early Bird Pricing:  $279/person and $169/2nd caregiver (partner, babysitter, grandparent).

Your Class Fee Includes Everything Here:
  • 8 interactive classes. These class are live, via video conference, so you can see and hear your facilitator as well as other class participants
  • Access to replays of all classes for 6 months. So if you miss a class, you can make it up on your own. Or listen again later for a refresher.
  • Weekly handout with summaries, reminders, homework assignments, and exercises.
  • Weekly practice assignment. Changing behavior is not easy and requires daily practice. Each week you’ll get something very tangible to practice with your children.
  • Supplemental reading assignments. Each week you’ll get a short article hand-picked by Marcilie to round out your classroom experience.
  • Membership in a private discussion group. Get support and encouragement from Marcilie and others in the class.
  • Access to private resource page with additional handouts, links, and audio downloads
  • Free 30 minute 1:1 parenting consultation at the end of the series
Want more details? You’ll find detailed course content here

Course Content: 5 Modules over 8 Weeks

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Module 1: Shift Your Perspective (Weeks 1 & 2)

What you see is what you get

In this module, you will learn how powerful your perspective can be when it comes to parenting. You will learn how to shift perspective in four ways, in order to make it easier to show up as a peaceful parent, and to find the right words to say in those tense moments with your kids. You’ll also learn about Adlerian Psychology, the philosophy underlying Positive Discipline proposed 100 years ago by Alfred Adler, which has withstood the test of time and contemporary neuroscientific research. The four perspective shifts are:

  • From discipline as punishment to discipline as teaching
  • From short term to long term
  • From focusing on the behavior to focusing on what’s driving it
  • From parent as behavior manager to parent as encourager and problem solver

You will leave with specific tools to help you maintain these new perspectives, taught through experiential activities.

Module 2: Gain Tools (Weeks 2 – 4, and Week 6)

We Can Only Do What We’ve Learned How To Do

In this module we will focus on filling your Positive Discipline tool box. You will learn:

  • Alternatives to rewards and punishments that both work and teach long term life skills
  • How to design consequences that are helpful, not hurtful
  • Two things every child needs for intrinsically motivated cooperation
  • 3 specific ways to help your kids build resilience and problem solving skills
  • My favorite 3-step process to set limits that stick
  • Many more tools to reduce defiance, power struggles, and other challenging behaviors

Module 3: Take Care of Yourself (Week 5)

When you feel better, you do better.

One of my favorite mantras from Positive Discipline is this: “Kids do better when they feel better.” (Jane Nelsen). When kids feel well-fed, well-slept, and when they feel a strong sense of belonging and significance, it’s so much easier for them to behave in the way we’d like. The same is true for adults. It’s really hard to show up as a peaceful, positive parent when you are sleep-deprived, stressed out, over-worked, unappreciated, resentful or just plain unhappy.

In this module you will uncover what’s blocking you from taking better care of yourself and leave with a specific action plan to put yourself closer to the top of your priority list.

Module 4: Share The Load (Week 7)

If you feel like you’re doing all the work, it’s probably because you are.

In Adlerian Psychology and Positive Discipline, everyone in the family has a role in creating a smoothly-running and happy home. You’ll learn step-by-step activities you can do with your partner and your kids in order to share the load, teach life skills, and give everyone the opportunity to contribute.

Module 5: Enjoy the Ride (Week 8)

It’s all about the journey

We’ll end the series with more tools and tips to help you step outside of your busyness, and re-connect with the joy and awesomeness in parenting. You’ll get:

  • my favorite tool to help you remain present with your kids
  • what mindfulness looks like when you’re trying to get out the door but your kids are driving you crazy
  • tips for keeping the joy and fun alive and well

Note: Exact content and order may shift or change based on participant needs

Wondering how the on-line class works? FAQ’s are below.

How will the interactive, on-line class work?

We will be using Zoom video conferencing which is exceptionally easy to use. You will be given a URL link upon registration which will take you to the virtual classroom at the time of the event. You will see the facilitator on video and will be able to see her computer screen, too. You will have the option of being seen as a participant, or not.

What are the system requirements?

Just about anything MOST people will be using, will work. Chromebooks will NOT be able to work with Zoom, I’m sorry! As long as the computer or smart phone was purchased within the last 15 years (some even longer) you will have no issue. You may also dial in using your phone, with or without camera. For more specific system requirements follow this link.

Can I participate using a mobile device?

Yes. You can use your smart phone with or without video. You can also just dial in with a regular phone for audio only (although I recommend having the ability to see the video, as well as hear the audio.)

Does my computer or phone need a camera to participate?

No. While I hope that most people will participate choose to be seen (because it’s more like a real classroom that way), you do not need to have a camera and even if you do, you can choose not to use it.

I live outside the United States. Can I participate?

Yes, Zoom works globally. You can start or join a meeting from any international location using PC & Mac , Android & iOS , H.323/SIP devices or telephone dial-in.

What People Have To Say About This Virtual Class

“Positive Discipline is an amazing platform from which to parent — its approach is balanced, fair and respectful to all members of the family. I feel grateful to have been introduced to it and wish I had exposure to it earlier. I truly felt calmer after reading the first chapter of Jane Nelsen’s book, “Positive Discipline,” which was the basis of our class. Marcilie is a brilliant educator — she is positive, a clear thinker, and highly organized. She’s mastered the subject matter and presents both the theories and applied usage of Positive Discipline with just the right balance.”

– Jill Lindenbaum, Mother of 2 children, Piedmont, CA

“Marcilie is a great resource on Positive Discipline. I took her class because I wanted to be a better parent and learn new ways of disciplining. I came away with a solid understanding of the principles and some really good techniques under my belt. I also love that she’s easily accessible via email for questions, has a great resource page and that she lets you take the class again for free! I’d highly recommend her.”

– Corinna Lu, Mother of 2 children, San Francisco, CA

“Marcilie is an incredibly skilled facilitator who will help give you the tools to implement the positive discipline parenting approach. I had read about it before and tried to parent that way but found myself floundering and bouncing back and forth between being permissive and frankly, angry, that my kids were walking all over me. This class game me so many tools to improve my relationships with my children and I think it will have a long-term impact on my parenting. I know I will continually consult the resources she provided (my binder is like a bible now!)”

– Chiara Garonzik, Mother of 2 children, Los Gatos, CA

Facilitator:

MSB_headshotade6aaMarcilie Smith Boyle, MBA, CPCC, CPDT helps busy parents and professionals find more peace, purpose, and joy in parenting. A Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator and Leadership Coach, she leverages her previous sixteen-year consulting and marketing career to ensure her clients get a return on their coaching investment. She earned her MBA from Harvard Business School, BA from Dartmouth, and CPCC from The Coaches Training Institute. She loves living in Oakland with her husband and three wonderful school-aged children.

 


Building Strong Sibling Relationships: how to reduce rivalry, manage conflict, and foster healthy sibling relationships

Would you like to see your kids managing their emotions, resolving conflict on their own, and enjoying each other more?

 

In this workshop, parents will:

  • Discover the 2 main reasons siblings fight
  • Learn 4 things parents commonly do that exacerbate sibling rivalry and what to do instead
  • Experience the difference between traditional methods of discipline and Positive Discipline when it comes to managing sibling conflict
  • Gain practical tools you can use immediately to foster peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships
  • Get help solving real-life sibling conflict problems

This is a two-night, Parenting with Positive Discipline mini-series focused on building strong sibling relationships.

We will meet live on November 29 and December 6, with home practice, reading, and a phone check-in and Q&A at 12 noon on December 4th

This class will be co-facilitated by Marcilie Smith Boyle, MBA, CPCC, CPDPE and Lisa Fuller, MSW, CPCC, CPDT.

 

Cost: Early Bird (register by Nov 1) $105/person; $95/2nd caregiver (partner, babysitter, grandparent).

 

After Nov 1: $115/person; $105/2nd caregiver

 

Click Book Now and choose Individual or Couple (which can include a 2nd caregiver)

Starts On:
November 29, 2017
7:00 PM
Ends On:
December 06, 2017
9:00 PM


Positive Discipline Roots:  Making It Stick!

Monthly on Mondays, starting September 25, 2017
7:00pm–8:30pm in Piedmont, CA OR 12:00 – 1:30pm PST in a Virtual Classroom!

A monthly Parenting with Positive Discipline reinforcing group for those who have completed at least 10 hours of Positive Discipline instruction.

So you completed your Positive Discipline classes but now find yourself craving the weekly reminder that got you closer to your parenting sweet spot. We’ve created this series JUST FOR YOU!

Join us each month to refresh your Positive Discipline perspective, and get support with parenting challenges through discussions and experiential activities. Together we’ll deepen and reinforce powerful Positive Discipline concepts to keep you on track.

This short, fun video might just help you remember why we all need help staying on track!

This series is open to anyone who has taken at least 10 hours of Positive Discipline instruction.

Positive Discipline Roots includes:
  • 8 monthly reinforcing classes
  • binder with class materials (for live class) or downloads (for virtual class)
  • membership in a private discussion group
  • optional participation in Buddy Support Program (you’ll get a buddy to talk to once/month for listening, brainstorming solutions, and encouragement)
Click the blue button below to register
What People Have to Say About Roots 

I really enjoyed having both Lisa and Marcilie as facilitators because they have different styles and experiences and I get to learn from both.

The thing I most appreciate about Roots is the reinforcement of Positive Discipline concepts.

I enjoy Roots because it forces me to think about the tools and I like the role plays.

I learned a lot. I liked the content of the Roots because we covered different topics and went deep. I’m really happy I participated.

[I value Roots because it allows me to set aside] time to devote to being a better parent. There are always helpful reminders in every class.

I appreciate the constant reminder of where I want to be.

I appreciate Roots because it helped me get closer to my daughter.

I learned far more than I thought I would in every class.

I appreciate hearing other parents and their experiences and knowing that I’m not alone! I also appreciate getting new perspectives on old/repeat situations.

I LOVE PD & Roots. Very helpful to recalibrate here. I always “relearn” a tool I had forgotten.

I knew that if I ever had kids I didn't want to do what my parents did. I had all sorts of bad parenting modeled for me. The trouble came when I actually had kids. I didn't know what good things to do instead. So I found myself reacting to bad behavior in unproductive ways. Working with Marcilie and Lisa provided me with a whole new set of actions to try and perspectives to seek. We practiced techniques in class so that it would be easier to do them at home. I learned so much about myself and my children. I keep doing Roots so that I have a monthly reminder and check in because there are always new challenges and Marcilie and Lisa keep updating their information. It's a great way to keep growing.

Lisa Patakas
Stay-at-home Mom of 2 Children
Alameda, Ca

2017 – 2018 Where, When, Topics and Fees:

Format: Warm up; Experiential activity and discussion; Parents Helping Parents Problem Solving

Where:   Piedmont Center for the Arts, 801 Magnolia Avenue, East Wing (entrance on Bonita, across the street from the tennis courts) or On-Line Virtual Class using video conference

When: The 4th Monday of each month from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. in Oakland, or 12:00 – 1:30pm On-Line.

Facilitators: Lisa Fuller, MSW, CPCC and Certified Positive Discipline Trainer; Marcilie Smith Boyle, MBA, CPCC and Certified Positive Discipline Trainer

Fees:   Sept 2017 – May 2018 series:  Regular Individual $239; 2nd caregiver:  $160

Early Bird (by Aug 30) Individual:  $200; 2nd caregiver:  $150

One-month Drop In:  $40

Dates and Topics:

Sept 25, 2017 Back Talk, Defiance, and Power Struggles — Learn how parents contribute to these unwanted behaviors, and what to do instead.

Oct 23  The Kids Are Fighting . . . Again!  — Gain practical tools to encourage more peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships.

Nov 27  Joint Problem Solving with PESOS — Learn/re-learn and practice this effective, simple process to solve patterned, negative behavior challenges collaboratively with your kids.

Jan 22, 2018 The Belief Behind the Behavior — Going deeper on Mistaken Goals of Undue Attention, Misguided Power, Revenge, and Assumed Inadequacy.

Feb 26 Set Limits That Stick in Three Simple Steps —  Identify where stronger or weaker limits are needed in your household, then learn and practice a three-step tool to set limits that stick. 

Mar 26 Bringing it All Together with Family Meetings — Do’s, Don’ts, practice and Q&A.

Apr 23 Flipped Lids, Self Care, and the Power of Perspective — How to stay cool, calm, and curious in the face of really irritating behavior.

May 21 Connection Through Empathy — Experience the impact of empathy on connection, cooperation, and self-discipline.  Empathy could become your “go-to” tool.

 

Click the blue button below to register

Wondering how the on-line class works? FAQ’s are below.

How will the interactive, on-line class work?

We will be using Zoom video conferencing which is exceptionally easy to use. You will be given a URL link upon registration which will take you to the virtual classroom at the time of the event. You will see the facilitator on video and will be able to see her computer screen, too. You will have the option of being seen as a participant, or not.

What are the system requirements?

Just about anything MOST people will be using, will work. Chromebooks will NOT be able to work with Zoom, I’m sorry! As long as the computer or smart phone was purchased within the last 15 years (some even longer) you will have no issue. You may also dial in using your phone, with or without camera. For more specific system requirements follow this link.

Can I participate using a mobile device?

Yes. You can use your smart phone with or without video. You can also just dial in with a regular phone for audio only (although I recommend having the ability to see the video, as well as hear the audio.)

Does my computer or phone need a camera to participate?

No. While I hope that most people will participate choose to be seen (because it’s more like a real classroom that way), you do not need to have a camera and even if you do, you can choose not to use it.

I live outside the United States. Can I participate?

Yes, Zoom works globally. You can start or join a meeting from any international location using PC & Mac , Android & iOS , H.323/SIP devices or telephone dial-in.


About Positive Discipline:

f07d4b8d8d0ee474553d6fec6487a63ePositive Discipline (www.positivediscipline.com and www.positivediscipline.org) is a program designed to teach young people to become responsible, resourceful members of their communities. Based on the best selling “Positive Discipline” books by Jane Nelsen and others, it promotes self-discipline: doing the right thing when no one is watching, forcing, or bribing. This happens when we model and teach our children important social and life skills in a manner that is deeply respectful and encouraging for both children and adults. Positive Discipline teaches adults to employ kindness and firmness at the same time, and is neither punitive nor permissive.



Work/Life Balance Workshops

Re-Balance

This workshop is currently available for custom groups only.
 

Re-claim a sense of work / life balance!

  • Clarify what balance means to you including what you need to ask for, and let go of, in order to feel more of it.
  • Get practical tips to open up an extra 30-60 minutes in your day.
  • Leave with new insights, actionable plans, and accountability.

“Balance” means something different to everyone.  But we all know how it feels.  And have you noticed that when you feel it, parenting (and everything) is so much easier?  

To me, “balance” does not mean having equal amounts of things.  Rather, it means having as much of something as you need, in order to feel a sense of peace, fulfillment, and general well being. 
 

For example, some people need lots of challenging work; others need just a little.  Some people need lots of social time; others need plenty of alone time. 
 

Your recipe for “balance” is unique to you.  What does your recipe call for, and in what amounts?  What “ingredients” have you been short on?  And what ingredients have you been adding, simply because that’s what someone else’s recipe calls for?

In this 2-hour workshop, we will:

  • Explore what you need in your recipe to feel more peace, purpose, productivity and joy
  • Challenge assumptions and beliefs that keep balance out of reach
  • Create personalized action plans to get closer to your “sweet spot”
  • Get tangible tips to free up 30-60 minutes / day
  • Give and get encouragement, suggestions, and accountability
  • Have fun!

This workshop is for you if:

  • You feel like you’re walking on an endless treadmill, always moving and always out of breath
  • You’ve lost track of the parts of yourself you used to love: your spunk, your humor, your sense of purpose or joy
  • You feel guilty if you put your needs ahead of anyone else’s
  • You’re frequently stressed-out, bummed-out, exhausted, irritated, or burnt-out
  • You’ve spent years pouring energy into your kids and your work, and you’re ready to invest in your SELF!

Life is too short to spend it feeling chronically stressed-out, bored, bummed-out, irritated, grumpy, or burnt-out!  Take a risk on getting closer to the life you dream of.  What are you waiting for?  You’ll feel better, you’ll do better, and that’s better for your kids, too.

All parents, men and women, working for pay or not, are welcome. It is not necessary to be working for pay to crave a sense of work / life balance.
 


 

Leadership Development Workshops

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