I thought my child was being a brat. So I treated her that way. Oops.

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting0 Comments

I thought my child was being a brat. So I treated her that way. It seemed logical at the time, but my intervention actually invited more bratty behavior. Here’s why . . . “Your explanation of your child’s behavior guides your intervention.”  — Ross Greene I will forever be transformed by having read, “The Explosive Child” by Ross Greene. Poorly … Read More

Getting on the same parenting page with your partner

Joe Alamolong term parenting, Parenting and Management, Parenting w/Positive Discipline0 Comments

Do you and your partner have different parenting styles?  If so, you’re in good company. It comes up all the time and I mean all the time: “How do my partner and I get onto the same parenting page?” One parent is too kind and the other too firm, and they push each other, ever farther to extremes, by compensating … Read More

Your Child May Have The Best Solution For Unwanted Behavior

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This story about giving up some parenting responsibility comes from Louann, who recently took my 8-week Parenting with Positive Discipline virtual class . . . My then 3-year old son and I were at our favorite family camp one summer. My son loved to play in the woods – grabbing handfuls of red earth, and throwing them up in the … Read More

3 Easy Ways to “Connect Before Correct” in parenting

Marciliediscipline, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Uncategorized0 Comments

Connection Before Correction is one of my all-time favorite Parenting with Positive Discipline mantras. I believe these are words to live by both in the moment of dissatisfying behavior, and in the long run as a foundation for any relationship. Several years ago I began to feel like a nag to my then 11 year-old son so I tracked the … Read More

A Parenting Class Made Me A Better Manager (and Parent)

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Adam and Family

I’m pleased to share this message from guest-blogger Adam Fishman, a participant in my parenting classes, and VP of Growth Marketing @Patreon.   A brief moment of calm in between the chaos. “Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? — Jane Nelsen, author of Positive … Read More

When Kids Lie

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, long term parenting, Lying, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, punishment, Uncategorized6 Comments

The topic of lying came up in my parenting class last week. We were role-playing parents’ typical responses to a lying kid: “Honey, did you just lie about that? Are you sure?” (When parent already knows the child is lying) “Are you kidding me? You just lied straight to my face. How COULD you?” “That’s it, no more (fill in … Read More

A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

Marciliediscipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Sibling Fighting, Uncategorized2 Comments

This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

Struggling to come up with “the right” consequences? Try this!

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, punishment4 Comments

Click here for an audio version of this blog: Over the past several months, I have heard some questionable tips from parenting experts on the topic of “consequences.”  What’s surprising to me is that these are parenting experts I respect and agree with most of the time.  But not this time. Here’s an example of one tip that raised my eyebrows:  “The … Read More

In parenting, I do better when I feel better. How about you?

MarcilieParenting w/Positive Discipline, Work / Life Balance0 Comments

When my 3rd baby was born, something happened to my 2nd-born.  She transformed from a sweet, cheerful, optimistic and easy-going child into a needy, super-sensitive, irritating being.  She was bugging the crap out of me.  I didn’t like the way I was feeling, and I definitely did not like the parent I was being.  So I enrolled in my first parenting … Read More