A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

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This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

Struggling to come up with “the right” consequences? Try this!

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Click here for an audio version of this blog: Over the past several months, I have heard some questionable tips from parenting experts on the topic of “consequences.”  What’s surprising to me is that these are parenting experts I respect and agree with most of the time.  But not this time. Here’s an example of one tip that raised my eyebrows:  “The … Read More

In parenting, I do better when I feel better. How about you?

MarcilieParenting w/Positive Discipline, Work / Life Balance0 Comments

When my 3rd baby was born, something happened to my 2nd-born.  She transformed from a sweet, cheerful, optimistic and easy-going child into a needy, super-sensitive, irritating being.  She was bugging the crap out of me.  I didn’t like the way I was feeling, and I definitely did not like the parent I was being.  So I enrolled in my first parenting … Read More

My kid uses my own parenting tool on me . . . and it works!

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“I need a hug” is an actual parenting tool from “Positive Discipline.”  You can use this tool almost any time, in any situation, and it often works wonders.   Imagine that your child is having a tantrum.  You say, “I need a hug!”   Your child can’t hear you at first because he is tantrumming (or arguing, or negotiating, or … Read More

The power of perspective when parenting

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“Your explanation of your child’s behavior guides your intervention.”  — Ross Greene   I will forever be transformed by having read, “The Explosive Child” by Ross Greene.  Poorly named, this book describes both a perspective and a process for solving behavior problems jointly with kids (all kinds, even non-explosive ones.)  His work, along with “Positive Discipline,” inspired the curriculum for … Read More