Learning to recognize when we’ve lost our cool and then take steps to calm down before reacting is one of the most important lessons I learned (and am still practicing!) from Positive Discipline.
Coping with Back-to-School Uncertainty
Will children go back to school and if so, how? Will we feel confident in their safety if they do? Will we ever know for sure what the Fall of 2020 will look like until we get there? How to cope with back to school uncertainty.
Anti-racism: from fixed vs. growth mindset + DEI children’s books
Things you can watch, read, listen to, or do in 10, 25, or 45-minute chunks each day to learn how to be an active ally.
5 Ways to Get Children to Follow Through (without nagging!)
Five ways to encourage follow-through without nagging
Lighten Your Load with the 4 D’s
Imagine that you’re standing in front of a beautiful buffet. It all looks so appealing and delicious. You keep adding different foods onto your plate and as you walk away you see something else that looks delicious so you add that, too. You think it will be wonderful and at first it is. But if you eat everything on your … Read More
Surviving School Closures in the wake of COVID-19
Coronavirus’ exponential spread is affecting everyone. The business world seemed to understand the implications first by announcing work-from-home mandates. Schools across the country are now following suit, leaving working parents in quite a pickle. We are being asked to be a professional, parent, and teacher all at once and all at home. That’s a pretty tall order; especially with young children … Read More
Child melting down? Try this
The story featured below is from Ranjana, mother of two children. She had recently attended a Positive Discipline class where the topic was setting limits. In class, we spent a lot of time talking about how hard it is to allow and accept our children’s big emotions, especially when they are screaming, tantruming, or crying incessantly. It’s uncomfortable (for everyone) … Read More
Why it’s Important to Create a Healthy Bond with Children as Early as Possible
From taking your child to their first day of school, to someday walking them down the aisle, some of life’s biggest milestones are between you and your child. But way before you reach any significant milestones, it’s important to strengthen your bond with your child as early as possible. As a parent, you are your child’s first connection to other … Read More
Top 6 Positive Discipline Tools for Preschoolers and Toddlers
I’ve been through it three times and the thought of doing it again feels absolutely exhausting: parenting toddlers and preschoolers. It’s true that the teen years present some emotionally exhausting issues (and I mean seriously exhausting), but those early years wore me out in all dimensions: physical, emotional, and cognitive. Why were my car keys in the refrigerator? Because I … Read More
3 Easy Ways to Encourage (i.e., foster COURAGE to keep trying, do something new, take on a challenge)
The best gift you can give your children this holiday season is . . . Encouragement. You can’t wrap it up, and they won’t be asking for it. But they need it more than anything, and it doesn’t cost a dime. “A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.” – Rudolf Dreikurs Think of someone in your life who was … Read More
How Positive Discipline (and a chore chart) followed my son to college
I visited my son at college last weekend. A sophomore in off-campus housing, he’d been complaining about the standards of cleanliness among his roommates (in his view, the standards are quite low.) For the first time in my son’s life, there is no one other than the 4 guys who live there to clean up the messes, dishes, or bathrooms. … Read More
Don’t take sides when siblings fight!
I’ve heard it said that when siblings fight, the parent or caregiver should first attend to the victim by giving comfort and attention. This way, bullies aren’t rewarded with attention, and theoretically, they learn to never to repeat the behavior because they actually see the pain they’ve caused. This seems logical enough…but in the long term, deciding who’s right and … Read More