Three Parenting Beliefs that Kill Your Child’s Creativity, Joy, and Potential (and How to Turn Them Around)

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We all carry beliefs that shape our parenting behavior. Many of these beliefs were formed in early childhood and are deeply lodged into our brains. Some of these beliefs are helpful in our quest to raise kind, compassionate, resilient and responsible children. Some of these beliefs are not. These are killer beliefs because they kill creativity, potential, joy, and relationship. … Read More

Your Child May Have The Best Solution For Unwanted Behavior

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This story about giving up some parenting responsibility comes from Louann, who recently took my 8-week Parenting with Positive Discipline virtual class . . . My then 3-year old son and I were at our favorite family camp one summer. My son loved to play in the woods – grabbing handfuls of red earth, and throwing them up in the … Read More

Set limits for your children (that stick!) in 3 simple steps

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I keep a notebook about each of my children in which I record major events, questions, and notes from parent-teacher conferences and other meetings. I happened to be thumbing through my daughter’s notebook while at a doctor visit last month, and a folded piece of paper fell out. On it, I’d  described a challenging parenting situation that I wanted help … Read More

3 Cures for Overwhelm in December and Beyond

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It’s that time of year! So let me get right to the point to minimize the odds of making it worse . . . 3 cures for overwhelm, and not just for now, but throughout the year. Challenge: pick one idea from this list to try out for the rest of the month. Unless that feels overwhelming. In which case, just … Read More

Sugar Buzz or Sugar Bust — What To Do With Too Much Halloween Candy?

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We face the same problem with Halloween candy every year.  I don’t know why it continues to surprise me . . . Last year I was mortified by the two pillowcases full of candy that my tween brought home on Halloween eve.  And this was after the sugar-filled school parties earlier that same day.   I immediately began to panic . . … Read More

3 Easy Ways to “Connect Before Correct” in parenting

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Connection Before Correction is one of my all-time favorite Parenting with Positive Discipline mantras. I believe these are words to live by both in the moment of dissatisfying behavior, and in the long run as a foundation for any relationship. Several years ago I began to feel like a nag to my then 11 year-old son so I tracked the … Read More

A Parenting Class Made Me A Better Manager (and Parent)

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Adam and Family

I’m pleased to share this message from guest-blogger Adam Fishman, a participant in my parenting classes, and VP of Growth Marketing @Patreon.   A brief moment of calm in between the chaos. “Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? — Jane Nelsen, author of Positive … Read More

Sibling fight breaks out in the Happiest Place on Earth

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It’s supposed to be the “Happiest Place on Earth” but after long days, long lines, and large scoops of ice cream, it can get unhappy pretty fast. I’m talking about Disneyland, where all 5 members of my family shared one hotel room for four nights over Spring Break a few weeks ago. Three of us were sick with cough/colds. On night 3, … Read More

How do I get my kids to listen?

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“He never listens to me!” “I have to tell him 10 times!” “She’ll only pay attention if I yell!” How many of you have ever felt this way?  Chances are that nearly all of us have felt irritated by our child’s inability to listen and follow through with simple requests at one time or another. Years ago, my child was soooooo adept … Read More