How do I get my kids to listen?

MarcilieParenting w/Positive Discipline0 Comments

“He never listens to me!” “I have to tell him 10 times!” “She’ll only pay attention if I yell!” How many of you have ever felt this way?  Chances are that nearly all of us have felt irritated by our child’s inability to listen and follow through with simple requests at one time or another. Years ago, my child was soooooo adept … Read More

Mind the Gap: Why it’s so hard to keep resolutions and how to up your odds

MarcilieOrganization, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Uncategorized, Work / Life Balance0 Comments

“I know I shouldn’t yell so much, but I just can’t seem to stop!” “I know I shouldn’t eat this entire pint of ice cream, but here I go anyway . . .” “I know I should stop reading Facebook, but the other things I have to do are far less interesting!” Does any of this sound familiar? Even when … Read More

When Kids Lie

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, long term parenting, Lying, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, punishment, Uncategorized6 Comments

The topic of lying came up in my parenting class last week. We were role-playing parents’ typical responses to a lying kid: “Honey, did you just lie about that? Are you sure?” (When parent already knows the child is lying) “Are you kidding me? You just lied straight to my face. How COULD you?” “That’s it, no more (fill in … Read More

Flip-Flop Parenting And What To Do Instead

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Do you know what I mean when I say, “flip-flop parenting?” You know, when we start out as parents, we want to be nice. We want to keep peace in the family and have happy experiences so we do a lot for our kids, we give them some latitude, and put our own needs last until . . . we … Read More

It’s OK to Say No

MarcilieWork / Life Balance6 Comments

I’ve written about this word before. It was in the context of parenting, however, and this time I’d like to share the empowering side of “no” in the context of life in general. It’s funny that I feel inspired to write about “no” when I’ve just begun an improvisational comedy class where the motto is “Yes, and . . . … Read More

A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

Marciliediscipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Sibling Fighting, Uncategorized2 Comments

This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

5 Ways to Move From Disciplinarian to Coach

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One of my greatest fears upon marrying a “nice guy” was that I would become the “disciplinarian” and he’d become, or rather remain, the “nice guy.” Dang.  It happened! Ironically, the thing that pushed me even farther in to the “disciplinarian” role was  . . . can you guess it? Yup, my old friend, Fear. . . Fear that my kids … Read More

Great parenting doesn’t just happen “in the moment”

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This chart got a lot of great feedback on my Facebook page so I’m sharing it with my community. Parents in my classes are generally very focused on what to do “in the moment” of misbehavior. But I’ve found that there is way more impact when we focus before the moment, to prevent the “moments” from ever happening. I call this “Preventive … Read More

The surprising parenting lesson from my morning from hell

MarcilieLetting Go, long term parenting, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, Problem Solving, Sibling Fighting, Sibling Rivalry, Uncategorized6 Comments

Whoa, this particular morning was a doozey. It took me a while to recover enough to write about it. Still not sure . . . but here goes. Part 1:  Siblings Fight Over Piano Books Thursdays are piano days for two of my kids. Their babysitter picks them up from school and goes straight to piano lessons, so they need … Read More

Struggling to come up with “the right” consequences? Try this!

Marcilieconsequences, discipline, Parenting w/Positive Discipline, punishment4 Comments

Click here for an audio version of this blog: Over the past several months, I have heard some questionable tips from parenting experts on the topic of “consequences.”  What’s surprising to me is that these are parenting experts I respect and agree with most of the time.  But not this time. Here’s an example of one tip that raised my eyebrows:  “The … Read More

A GEM of a parenting tool

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This month, I’m bringing back a message I wrote before I had a blog.  It’s from September, 2013. . . Recently, one of my favorite quotes came across my desk and inspired my message today. Here it is: “Be where you are, otherwise you will miss your life.”  — Buddha (paraphrased by Jack Kornfield) I love the meaning and have … Read More