Live, Interactive On-Line Parenting with Positive Discipline Class via video conference
Next class starts in 2020. Add your name here to be notified.
“I really love all the positive reinforcement for positive parenting received from Marcilie! My family and home are happier places as a result!” — Lana Tillis, Mother of 2 Children
Would you like to:
- yell less
- have fewer power struggles
- connect more
- share the load more
- feel more confident and peaceful in your parenting
- and raise children who are respectful, resilient, and plain old happy?
This Virtual Parenting with Positive Discipline on-line workshop series will help you show up as the parent you want to be, and create a home where respectful cooperation is the norm. You’ll get tangible, practical tips and tools that are easy to implement and work right away.
Here’s just some of what you’ll learn over the 8-week class:
- 2 things every child needs for intrinsically motivated cooperation.
- Simple, tangible, and effective Positive Discipline tools to reduce defiance, tantrums, back talk and other challenging behaviors.
- My favorite 3-step ritual to stay cool, calm, and curious in the face of really irritating behavior
- How to teach responsibility and promote pride in contribution through household jobs
- What it looks and sounds like to parent with kindness and firmness at the same time
- Specific words you can use to foster resilience and a “growth mindset” in your children
- All about chores, allowance, and family meetings
- The one principle that matters most in helping your kids to become responsible, respectful, resourceful, and happy adults (and how to put that principle into practice every day.)
Where: In the comfort of your own home or office via video conference. I’ll facilitate each workshop live, via web video conference, and you’ll be able to participate and ask your questions as if we were in a room together.
How: We will use Zoom video conferencing. If your computer or mobile device is less than 15 years old, you’ll be able to participate! You’ll be given a URL to tune in via web conference OR you can download the Zoom app on your smartphone and participate that way. If you’re worried about the technology, don’t be! Even techno-phobes agree that it’s very easy and I can test it out with you to make sure.
Cost: $349/person and $239/2nd caregiver (partner, co-parent, babysitter, grandparent, et.)
Your Class Fee Includes Everything Here:
- 8 interactive classes. These class are live, via video conference, so you can see and hear your facilitator as well as other class participants
- Access to replays of all classes for 6 months. So if you miss a class, you can make it up on your own. Or listen again later for a refresher.
- Weekly handout with summaries, reminders, homework assignments, and exercises.
- Weekly practice assignment. Changing behavior is not easy and requires daily practice. Each week you’ll get something very tangible to practice with your children.
- Supplemental reading assignments. Each week you’ll get a short article hand-picked by Marcilie to round out your classroom experience.
- Membership in a private discussion group. Get support and encouragement from Marcilie and others in the class.
- Access to private resource page with additional handouts, links, and audio downloads
- Free 30 minute 1:1 parenting consultation at the end of the series
Next class starts in 2020. Add your name here to be notified.
Want more details? You’ll find detailed course content here
Course Content: 5 Modules over 8 Weeks
Module 1: Shift Your Perspective
What you see is what you get
In this module, you will learn how powerful your perspective can be when it comes to parenting. You will learn how to shift perspective in four ways, in order to make it easier to show up as a peaceful parent, and to find the right words to say in those tense moments with your kids. You’ll also learn about Adlerian Psychology, the philosophy underlying Positive Discipline proposed 100 years ago by Alfred Adler, which has withstood the test of time and contemporary neuroscientific research. The four perspective shifts are:
- From discipline as punishment to discipline as teaching
- From short term to long term
- From focusing on the behavior to focusing on what’s driving it
- From parent as behavior manager to parent as encourager and problem solver
You will leave with specific tools to help you maintain these new perspectives, taught through experiential activities.
Module 2: Gain Tools
We Can Only Do What We’ve Learned How To Do
In this module we will focus on filling your Positive Discipline tool box. You will learn:
- Alternatives to rewards and punishments that both work and teach long term life skills
- How to design consequences that are helpful, not hurtful
- Two things every child needs for intrinsically motivated cooperation
- 3 specific ways to help your kids build resilience and problem solving skills
- My favorite 3-step process to set limits that stick
- Many more tools to reduce defiance, power struggles, and other challenging behaviors
Module 3: Take Care of Yourself
When you feel better, you do better.
One of my favorite mantras from Positive Discipline is this: “Kids do better when they feel better.” (Jane Nelsen). When kids feel well-fed, well-slept, and when they feel a strong sense of belonging and significance, it’s so much easier for them to behave in the way we’d like. The same is true for adults. It’s really hard to show up as a peaceful, positive parent when you are sleep-deprived, stressed out, over-worked, unappreciated, resentful or just plain unhappy.
In this module you will uncover what’s blocking you from taking better care of yourself and leave with a specific action plan to put yourself closer to the top of your priority list.
Module 4: Share The Load
If you feel like you’re doing all the work, it’s probably because you are.
In Adlerian Psychology and Positive Discipline, everyone in the family has a role in creating a smoothly-running and happy home. You’ll learn step-by-step activities you can do with your partner and your kids in order to share the load, teach life skills, and give everyone the opportunity to contribute.
Module 5: Enjoy the Ride
It’s all about the journey.
We’ll end the series with more tools and tips to help you step outside of your busyness, and re-connect with the joy and awesomeness in parenting. You’ll get:
- my favorite tool to help you remain present with your kids
- what mindfulness looks like when you’re trying to get out the door but your kids are driving you crazy
- tips for keeping the joy and fun alive and well
Note: Exact content and order may shift or change based on participant needs
Wondering how the Virtual Classroom works? FAQ’s are below.
How will the live, interactive, on-line class work?
This is a live, interactive class using Zoom video conferencing which is exceptionally easy to use. You will be given a URL link upon registration which will take you to the virtual classroom at the time of the event. You will see the other participants on screen as well as the facilitator and her whiteboard. We can do small breakout groups, too! If it’s a bad hair day, you may choose to turn your camera off so that you are not seen by others. ( ;
What are the system requirements?
Just about any computer or smartphone will work. As long as it was purchased within the last 15 years (some even longer) you will have no issue. You may also dial in using your phone, with or without camera. For more specific system requirements follow this link.
Can I participate using a mobile device?
Yes. You can use your smartphone with or without video by downloading the Zoom Meetings app and then entering the Meeting Room ID. You can also just dial in with a regular phone for audio only (although I recommend having the ability to see the video, as well as hear the audio.)
Does my computer or phone need a camera to participate?
No. While I hope that most people will choose to be seen (because it’s more like a real classroom that way), you do not need to have a camera and even if you do, you can choose not to use it.
I live outside the United States. Can I participate?
For what ages of children is this class directed?
Ages 2 to teens. The philosophy and concepts presented in class apply to all ages (even adults!) however some tools are age-specific. Some tools can be modified for various ages and I will share modifications whenever appropriate. I enjoy having a mixed age group because parents learn so much from each other, not just the facilitator.
I can’t make it to all (or any) of the classes live. Will they be recorded?
Yes. And they’ll be available for replay for 6 months.
I’d like my partner to watch the replays with me. Is that OK?
Not unless your partner is also enrolled in the class. I offer a wildly discounted 2nd caregiver rate. In order to protect confidentiality and intellectual property, only enrolled participants may watch the recorded classes.
What People Have To Say About This Virtual Class
“Positive Discipline is an amazing platform from which to parent — its approach is balanced, fair and respectful to all members of the family. I feel grateful to have been introduced to it and wish I had exposure to it earlier. I truly felt calmer after reading the first chapter of Jane Nelsen’s book, “Positive Discipline,” which was the basis of our class. Marcilie is a brilliant educator — she is positive, a clear thinker, and highly organized. She’s mastered the subject matter and presents both the theories and applied usage of Positive Discipline with just the right balance.”
– Jill Lindenbaum, Mother of 2 children, Piedmont, CA
“Marcilie is a great resource on Positive Discipline. I took her class because I wanted to be a better parent and learn new ways of disciplining. I came away with a solid understanding of the principles and some really good techniques under my belt. I also love that she’s easily accessible via email for questions, has a great resource page and that she lets you take the class again for free! I’d highly recommend her.”
– Corinna Lu, Mother of 2 children, San Francisco, CA
“Marcilie is an incredibly skilled facilitator who will help give you the tools to implement the positive discipline parenting approach. I had read about it before and tried to parent that way but found myself floundering and bouncing back and forth between being permissive and frankly, angry, that my kids were walking all over me. This class game me so many tools to improve my relationships with my children and I think it will have a long-term impact on my parenting. I know I will continually consult the resources she provided (my binder is like a bible now!)”
– Chiara Garonzik, Mother of 2 children, Los Gatos, CA
Marcilie Smith Boyle, MBA, CPCC, CPDT helps busy parents and professionals find more peace, purpose, and joy in parenting. A Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator and Leadership Coach, she leverages her previous sixteen-year consulting and marketing career to ensure her clients get a return on their coaching investment. She earned her MBA from Harvard Business School, BA from Dartmouth, and CPCC from The Co-active Training Institute. She loves living in Oakland, CA with her husband and three children.
About Positive Discipline:
Positive Discipline (www.positivediscipline.com and www.positivediscipline.org) is a program designed to teach young people to become responsible, resourceful members of their communities. Based on the best selling “Positive Discipline” books by Jane Nelsen and others, it promotes self-discipline: doing the right thing when no one is watching, forcing, or bribing. This happens when we model and teach our children important social and life skills in a manner that is deeply respectful and encouraging for both children and adults. Positive Discipline teaches adults to employ kindness and firmness at the same time, and is neither punitive nor permissive.