A Tale of Two Siblings . . . and 6 tips for peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships

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This tale is true. And recent. Although names have been changed to protect the (somewhat) innocent. We were boarding a plane, on our way back from Spring break. My two daughters were in front of me, moving down the aisle toward our row, and arguing about who would get the window seat. I was trying to stay out of it … Read More

Struggling to come up with “the right” consequences? Try this!

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Click here for an audio version of this blog: Over the past several months, I have heard some questionable tips from parenting experts on the topic of “consequences.”  What’s surprising to me is that these are parenting experts I respect and agree with most of the time.  But not this time. Here’s an example of one tip that raised my eyebrows:  “The … Read More

Parenting can be oh, so uncomfortable

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Click below for the audio version of this message.   No one ever told me how hard parenting would be. Everyone seemed to play up the joy and love (which for sure is true) but they failed to warn me about the shock, fear, disappointment and downright despair I’d soon feel. They also failed to warn me about how painful it … Read More

In parenting, I do better when I feel better. How about you?

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When my 3rd baby was born, something happened to my 2nd-born.  She transformed from a sweet, cheerful, optimistic and easy-going child into a needy, super-sensitive, irritating being.  She was bugging the crap out of me.  I didn’t like the way I was feeling, and I definitely did not like the parent I was being.  So I enrolled in my first parenting … Read More

My kid uses my own parenting tool on me . . . and it works!

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“I need a hug” is an actual parenting tool from “Positive Discipline.”  You can use this tool almost any time, in any situation, and it often works wonders.   Imagine that your child is having a tantrum.  You say, “I need a hug!”   Your child can’t hear you at first because he is tantrumming (or arguing, or negotiating, or … Read More

The power of perspective when parenting

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“Your explanation of your child’s behavior guides your intervention.”  — Ross Greene   I will forever be transformed by having read, “The Explosive Child” by Ross Greene.  Poorly named, this book describes both a perspective and a process for solving behavior problems jointly with kids (all kinds, even non-explosive ones.)  His work, along with “Positive Discipline,” inspired the curriculum for … Read More